Archive for March, 2010

A few years ago I came up with a small essay to help a fellow Asian male friend with his women issues, specifically how to “woo” a particular woman.  This essay unfortunately never got finished, but it’s worth a read.  I’m not implying that everything I’m saying is 100% correct, but it’s definitely a good start. 

I stereotype a lot (lol) and I make some bold statements/assumptions, but hey it’s worked for me.  Don’t take this to heart, read it as entertainment.

On a side note as soon as I wrote this, about 1 year later I discovered a book from a friend called “The Game” which a professional pick-up artist (yes apparently there really are people that can are professional women pickup artists lol) wrote.  I read a bit of it and interestingly enough his book documents some of the things I say in my essay except he uses evolution to justify it. 

If people actually like my essay maybe I’ll finish it one day lol…

Click here for the link to the essay.

You know it’s always funny when someone evaluates themselves based on others.  I believe this is why a lot of people have confidence or jealousy issues.  Personally I’ve noticed it’s also a cultural thing as well.  Things like house warming, baby showers, etc all are used to technically “show off” if you think about it.  I mean why invite people to your house just for one day?  Wouldn’t your friends, family, etc come over anyways over the course of the year if you were really close with them anyways?  Same goes for your pregnancy since you see these people ALL the time.  Why couldn’t they just give you a gift without the shower?  These things baffle me sometimes.

So back to self evaluation.  I have been evaluating myself every spring for years since it always brings back the best memories to me.  Last night I was able to just take out the garage queen and drive around under the evening stars in the town that defined my childhood.  My confidence level has always been high, but just seeing how far I’ve come in the relatively short time since High School is reassuring.  Now I’m not talking about all the materialistic things as I’ve always been blessed in this department.  The mental progression, career progression, and my place in life right now is good.  Just to be satisfied is a tough task for me as many know..

Speaking of materialism, do people really also evaluate themselves based on things you can not take with you to the grave?  I’ve never understood this one either as possessions are the things that change the most in life.  I could remember when I was in my teens and the only thing I wanted was a car and I would modify it until it was fast.  Sadly I did get to that point, along with losing my license as well at some point.  Regardless, as I grew older that desires has changed.  Of course I still love cars, but honestly I’m content with my Scion and very appreciative that I was able to purchase the M Roadster. 

Neither of these cars I would be sad to see go as I originally wanted to sell my TL for a Honda Fit or a Ford Flex as they seemed the most practical.  I guess what I’m trying to say is that your desire/wants will subside for what is practical and necessary over time.  You can’t evaluate life based on possessions since your possessions and desires change so often based on what is necessary at the time.  Since materials depreciate over time, it REALLY doesn’t make sense to judge yourself or others based on physical possessions.  It’s actually the opposite of what you want since you’re essentially saying that over time… you’re worth less lol..

So I noticed lately that several people are having a hard time with the opposite sex (primarily males).  What I don’t understand is why is something that is supposed to be “fun” so difficult for some individuals.

I formally would like to blame everything on the media.  The media has basically convinced most women that males have to be the most romantic guy on earth in order to be worthy.  This also makes most men feel inadequate around their interest and second guessing themselves quite often.  No longer is it OK for a male to just be themselves, they now have to say the right things, do the right things, pay for the right things, etc.  This never ending list seems to make most “nice guys” a nervous wreck.

It sure sounds retarded when I point it out, but next time you’re single think about it.  Also statistically, there are a LOT of single women out there in the USA.  Actually, more women are likely to be single for the rest of their lives than men in the states.  That is unless you’re hot/rich/awesome/etc.